Financial Support When Needed
Before me and my ex had kids I was the bread winner. I had a steady job that was good enough to pay rent and survive off of. Now after two kids I'm the one barely working. I work in the healthcare field which most times call for long hours. Since the kids stay with me sometimes it can be difficult to find a job that fits in my kids schedule. See my kids are very young (3 and 6). So that means one is in daycare and one is in grade school. Ugh!
I live in Philadelphia. A very big city with a lot of daycares around but I'm one of those moms who is very picky with daycares like location, staff, credentials etc. I don't want to have my kids in just any daycare. Then you have to add what time the daycare closes. In my area it's from 6 to 6. Now if you have older kids like pre teen or teen you may have more flexibility with job hours.
Now my question is:
What if you was now unemployed?
I was out with my favorite cousin in the world and our other friends and the topic of financial support for your ex arrose. We also brought up another question : is he/she is obligated if they already pay child support? I will not lie I sometimes get extra financial support from my kids father. I am always honest when it comes to financial help from him. I tell him what's it for. The child support money I receive from him always goes to two things groceries and half to the mortgage. I strongly believe the support of a child is not limited to just clothes and toys. Kids need food and a roof over their head.
Now if your unemployed the kids still needs to be takin care. So as your looking for new employment do you believe you should get extra help?
I have heard arguments from both sides. One saying "I already helped enough", others say " a little extra help is no problem ".
My take on it: Everyone is different. If you get along with your ex and they are nice enough to help out don't abuse it. I hate that. If your lucky enough to still get along with the mother/father of your kids and they still help out whether they also pay child support or not, again don't abuse it.
What are your guys take on it? Agree or disagree.