Different Ways Of Discipline
We all have different ways of discipling our kids. Some prefer the “ stand in a corner” routine, others prefer a little spanking and some choose not tom discipline at all. My family is from the islands and we believe in discipling children. To each their own but in my household a little spanking goes a long way. My mother was a single mother of three and although I didn't get much discipline as a child (I mostly learned from my older siblings what not to do) because I was able to learn very quickly of things that would get me in trouble.
Nowadays you sometimes find yourself in the same places as toddlers, pre teens and teens who seem to have lost their manners and their mind, along with their common sense. You even start to ask yourself questions like “does your parents know your here acting like this?” or “did they forget to teach you respect?”
I told myself I would raise my boys to the best of my abilities and to discipline as needed. Their father and me discipline in different ways. Since the kids live with me, I often end up looking like the bad guy between us two. He is more of a talker. He does the whole sit down and talk to them. He rarely gets upset. He has that tone in his voice that makes the kids listen. Myself on the other hand have levels.
Talking to them
Talking away toys/ electronics
Depending on the act will determine which step to follow first. One thing I started doing that works for the oldest one is saying “I’m going to tell your dad about this? it seems to get him on the right track most times especially when I do call him. Our other child, well he is going on three. Does any three year old listen anyway? lol Their dad thinks I’m to hard on them but I again remind him that once they start talking back and being disrespectful to myself and others I have to address it before it becomes worst like doing it out in public.
One mistake I see a lot with parents do is being more of a friend then parent. I am not my child friend; I am their mother. If my children and I are in a store and I tell them to put something back they better listen. I am not for the embarrassment out in public and no child should ever tell their parents to shut up or I hate you all because they didn't get that toy. Now understand I don’t believe in child abuse but I do believe in some form of light discipline but that’s just my opinion.
What steps do you take to discipline your child? Does your co-parent agree or disagree?